“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions” – Rilke
The above is an excerpt from Rilke’s Letters to a Young Poet (great read).
I occasionally find myself in a stressful situation, some over-dramatized conflict, full of uncertainty. We all do. For me, it’s a person that did something, or a situation I didn’t expect, or even when a 250+ lbs aggressive dude is doing the stack-pass like his life depends on it (sorry for those that don’t know about brazilian jiu jitsu).
The stress takes hold of my mind, and I can think about nothing else but ways to resolve the problem. What I’ve been learning lately, however, is that the best resolution starts with patience, because most problems don’t have immediate solutions. It probably sounds pretty lame and preachy, but just letting my brain stew in the chaos of uncertainty of it all has worked well for me. Not that I ignore the issue, I just don’t allow myself to make any hasty decisions. This even applies to the stack pass scenario above. In fact, sports are good at teaching that it’s okay to take a relaxed stroll through the fire every once in a while.