In the following video, Lloyd Irvin brought up the “disease” afflicting the general BJJ population. He calls it “bitchassness”. Basically, it’s the excuses you or your coaches are tempted to make when you lose a match in a tournament.
In the past year of competing, I’ve carefully worked at pushing that need to make excuses out. It comes from the fact that taking full responsibility for being the lesser man on this day is damn hard.
Losing should immediately initialize the same well-practiced process of self-analysis, using video of the match. There is no need to write long posts about it on your blog or Facebook.
So when people ask me how I did at the tournament, I try to limit my statement to: (1) my record on the day and (2) highlighting the fact that I learned a lot from the experience (no matter what the record is).
I try hard to avoid excuses of any kind: being screwed by the refs, going against people much heavier than me, being injured, tired, being stalled against, being screwed by some silly rule, etc.
I say “try” because it’s not easy, as Lloyd Irvin says in the above video. But if there is a culture of “no excuses” in the gym, that certainly helps in the struggle.
In my experience, just because a person preaches the value of “no excuses” doesn’t mean he follows that philosophy in his own competitive life. Again, it’s not easy to do. It’s kind of like drilling. A lot of people preach the value of drilling, but only a small fraction of those people actually drill as much as they know they should.
Anyway, let’s all make less excuses, and honestly discover the problems that lead to the loss, especially the ones that can be fixed through specific training.